Affairs and Infidelity

Sexual addiction often leads to infidelity and when this happens the toll it takes on both partners and the relationship is devastating. If you feel that your relationship is without hope, and you struggle to deal with the intense emotions, consequences, and causes of infidelity, Christian counseling can help. Though a difficult and painful thing for both partners, often when hitting the rock bottom of your relationship, true healing can begin. This is no easy task, but with dedication, faith, and professional guidance, you can heal past wounds, rebuild trust, and look to life and love made new in Christ.

Undoing the damage caused by sexual addiction can be nearly impossible without help. As with other forms of addiction, the bondage is strong, carrying a chance of relapse – even though few are actually satisfied by the affair and genuinely want to remain married. In fact, over half of men who have affairs are happy in their marriage.

Sexual addiction is a real condition, and it is completely treatable. Through proven methods and experienced sexual addiction and CSAT (Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist) counselors, both the offending and betrayed spouse can find everything they need for a full recovery. Are you the partner who was betrayed by sexual addiction? You might benefit from Christian counseling for partners of sex addicts.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. – Proverbs 3:5-6

The right path is usually the hardest when trying to follow Christ, but in the end, the reward is well worth the struggle. The same is true for the road to recovery from sexual addiction and infidelity. Though overwhelming and confusing at times, we know that healing is possible. At Tacoma Christian Counseling, we offer a compassionate place for you to walk this redemptive journey together as you learn real tools for healing, so you can regain safety, trust, and intimacy in your relationship.

The work of recovery involves:

• Accountability – The involved partner must own up to their mistakes, be willing to talk about what they did, and understand the devastation it caused their spouse.
• Willingness to start a new – This can be difficult, but for true healing, the betrayed spouse must risk future hurt by doing their best to work towards forgiveness. In time, this gets easier as the involved spouse proves they can be trusted.
• Ask and answer questions – The involved spouse must be willing to answer questions pertaining to the affair during counseling. The betrayed will learn how to ask healthy, productive questions that will give them the answers they need.
• Set realistic expectations – On the part of the betrayed partner, this means understanding that sex addiction is a real illness, and healing is a process not very different from chemical dependency. It helps to know that there is a bigger picture in which your spouse is remorseful and doing his or her best to change. On the other hand, the involved spouse needs to deal with his or her unhealthy ideas about marriage and sex.
• Forgiveness – Through Christ, we can find hope for a full recovery through faith, better understanding and new perspectives, healing, and finally forgiveness.

Healing after an affair can seem impossible, and the fight against sexual addiction like an all up-hill battle. Overcoming these problems will take dedication, but we have seen many couples come through these trials stronger than ever – both individually and as a couple. We hope that you will partner with us so that you can experience the same healing that we know is possible through Christian counseling.

If you’re ready to start Christian couples counseling for sexual addiction and infidelity recovery, give us a call us at (253) 777-1997 or contact us online to schedule an appointment.