Anger Management

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. – James 1:19

If you struggle with anger problems you might wonder, why do people get angry? The cause of unhealthy anger can take many forms including:

Masking painUncontrolled anger is often a mask for hidden emotions and pain. Some people experience anger when they are afraid, sad, lonely, or feel out of control, using anger as a shield against feelings they find more difficult to manage or show others.

Difficulty expressing emotions People often struggle with expressing emotions. For example, some feel that expression of things like sadness or fear is a sign of weakness. Some are taught to hide their feelings from a young age and are never allowed to express their pain or anger, which can lead to anger issues later in life.

Learned behaviorOften times, people with anger problems grew up with caretakers who also had issues with anger. Learned behaviors such as letting out anger by screaming or yelling can become a learned and destructively effective method of managing anger and relationships. Continuing the downhill spiral, this learned behavior usually stimulates more anger and stress.

Mental health disordersSometimes anger points to other conditions such as depression, bipolar disorder, personality disorders, addiction, and anxiety, which can make expressing anger in a healthy way very difficult.

Anger management problems can be exhausting for yourself and loved ones. At Tacoma Christian Counseling, we hope to offer support for those who suffer from anger issues by helping them heal the inner wounds that fuel anger. Whatever the cause for your anger problems, Christian anger management counseling can show you how to control your anger so that it can no longer control you.

As Christians, we can sometimes believe that anger is wrong. Anger can seem like a pointless emotion, one that causes pain and regret. Actually, experiencing anger can be very healthy when directed towards things like a violation of your rights or the rights of others or a need to set boundaries in relationships. Expressing anger constructively can bring motivation for positive change and can inspire others to take action against injustice.

And Jesus went into the temple of God, and cast out all them that sold and bought in the temple, and overthrew the tables of the money changers, and the seats of them that sold doves. – Matthew 21:22

Anger is understandable at times. Even Christ showed anger towards those who corrupted the house of God. Anger is a powerful emotion that can influence people, both in positive and negative ways, but when left unchecked, anger can lead to trouble.

Anger is a problem when it:

• Leads to bad behavior choices such as fits of yelling and verbal abuse.
• Contributes to aggression, violence, or self-harm.
• Causes a person to fall into social or legal problems.
• Alienates the angered person from others.
• Is used as a means of control or as a way of masking deeper issues.

Usually, people with anger issues are aware of their struggle but are unable to gain control of their strong emotions. Sometimes living with anger becomes normal, especially when a person has a history of living with other people who make excuses or normalize anger problems. In either case, there are symptoms that might signify a person has problems with anger.

The most common symptoms of anger management issues include:

• Persistent feelings of frustration towards yourself and others.
• Difficulty enjoying life or the company of others.
• Quickly angered with a tendency to yell or argue.
• Physical signs may include headaches, rapid breathing, nausea or pounding heart.

Learning how to control anger can be difficult. It requires you to take a close look at what triggers your anger, to find self-awareness, and to learn tools for managing your emotions and behavior responses. Christian counseling for anger management will offer a nonjudgmental place for you to explore your anger issues while helping you express your anger in healthy ways.

But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. – Colossians 3:8

Why Tacoma Christian Counseling?

Christian anger management counseling utilizes the support and guidance of Christ through use of scripture, prayer, and the wisdom of the Holy Spirit. Like other counseling groups, we stay on top of the latest, best practices for anger management counseling and anger management techniques. Unlike secular groups, we provide the added benefit of spiritual healing, which can only come through faith in Christ. For over 10 years we’ve had the privilege of helping people of all ages and backgrounds transform a life consumed by anger through forgiveness, redemption, and inner peace.

Christian Anger Management Counseling for Adults

The main goals of Christian anger management counseling are to help you become self-aware and to rebuild the damage caused by uncontrolled anger. Through Christian counseling, you can:

• Gain a better understanding of what triggers your anger.
• Find accountability for your anger and the effects it has on yourself and others.
• Heal from past wounds that your anger might be masking.
• Learn to acknowledge your anger and other emotions before they become out of hand.
• Learn how to calm yourself when angry.
• Discover ways of expressing anger in a healthy, constructive manner.
• Find forgiveness of self and others while building a relationship with Christ.

Christian Anger Management Counseling for Children and Teens

If your child or teen has anger problems, you have a right to be concerned. Anger issues in children and teens can be caused by many things, and as a parent it can be difficult to step away from the angry behavior in order to focus on the underlying issues. Tacoma Christian Counseling includes wonderful child and adolescent counselors who specialize in Christian anger management for kids and anger management for teens. Addressing anger issues in young people include:

• Discovering the hidden causes of anger and finding healing for those issues.
• Teaching the child or teen how to express all of their emotions, such as sadness, guilt, and frustration.
• Learning tools for calming intense emotions in a healthy manner.
• Working with other family members to create a safe, nurturing environment.
• Find unconditional love and peace through forming a relationship with Christ.

A life riddled with anger problems can be exhausting for all involved. Frequent anger can make it hard for you to live happily and form close, meaningful relationships with others. Victims of anger suffer from things like anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and sometimes PTSD type symptoms. Tacoma Christian Counseling focuses on helping people of all ages better understand their anger while offering lasting solutions for effective anger management. For more information see: Christian counseling for children and Christian counseling for teens.

Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. – Psalm 37:8

Do you ever feel like your anger is out of control? When you are angry, do you have difficulty calming down without exploding in rage? If this sounds like you, then your anger is likely causing harm to yourself and others. Expressing anger in ways that are explosive, violent, or verbally abusive can cause a variety of problems for the well-being of your health and relationships, and it might even land you in legal trouble.

The Effects of Anger on Your Health

Think of the last time you got very angry. How did you feel? Often anger comes on a person suddenly, causing instant, intense emotions and physical manifestations of those emotions. You might feel tightness in your chest as your heart pounds, your breathing quickens, and a knot of nausea forms in your stomach like a volcano about to erupt. These extreme emotions cause your body to release cortisol, which can lead to a number of health issues such as:

• An imbalance of blood glucose.
• Decrease in bone density.
• Slowed metabolism.
• Increased blood pressure.

Harboring feelings of anger can cause more harm to you than others, especially when your emotions go unexpressed. If you do lash out at others, then you might suffer from other effects such as a life riddled with guilt, blame, depression, and isolation from those you care about. Christian anger management counseling will help you gain better awareness of your emotions, so that you can learn to calm your rage before it gets out of control.

The Effects of Anger in Families

Living closely with others can be difficult, and some level of conflict is unavoidable. Trouble controlling your anger in these situations can lead to unreasonable outbursts focuses at the people you care about. This can severely damage your relationship with your family. Harmful effects of anger in families include:

• Hurting other people emotionally, potentially affecting self-image causing them to feel unloved or unappreciated.
• Uncontrolled anger is the leading cause for domestic violence.
• Living with those who struggle with anger issues creates a tense, fearful environment.
• Angry outbursts have negative effects on children, leading to issues like anxiety, depression, and behavior problems.
• When family issues are met with anger, it causes a breakdown in communication and effective problem solving.

If anger is destroying your family, Christian anger management counseling might be able to help. You might also consider Christian family counseling if anger issues are present with multiple family members. At Tacoma Christian Counseling, our counselors are dedicated to helping families move from conflict towards love, forgiveness, and peace.

The Effects of Anger in Relationships

Sometimes those we feel most comfortable with get the brunt of our negative emotions, including anger. The one you love should never become an outlet for your anger, but sometimes things like relationship issues, past hurts, and unresolved conflict can lead to negative, angry behavior patterns. Healthy relationships require trust and security. Uncontrolled anger directed towards the person you love could quickly tear away the foundation of a healthy relationship. Anger management issues in relationships can result in:

• Verbal and physical abuse.
• Unnecessary fighting and arguments.
• Trust issues.
• Damaged self-image.
• Adultery.
• Divorce.

Issues with anger are among the most common destroyers of relationships. Christian anger management counseling will show you how to communicate efficiently while expressing anger in healthy ways that don’t damage those you love. Tacoma Christian Counseling also offers great services for Christian marriage counseling and Christian couples counseling.

Legal Implications of Anger Issues

Those with uncontrollable anger issues are at risk of facing legal consequences, especially if their outbursts result in assault or other abusive acts. Results of legal trouble because of anger include:

• Assault charges.
• Lawsuits.
• Divorce.
• Loss of child custody.

Don’t let your anger land you in serious trouble before you get help. Tacoma Christian Counseling has a team of highly-skilled, compassionate counselors for Christian anger management counseling.

These are just some of the many dangers of living with uncontrolled anger. People also face consequences such as job loss, vehicle accidents, and self-injury. As you can see, anger can have serious implications for all areas of your life and the life of others. At Tacoma Christian Counseling we will do all we can to find solutions that last with Christian counseling for anger management.

Why can it be hard to control anger?

Anger is one of the most intense emotions a person can experience and for that reason is naturally difficult to control. Controlling your response to anger is a learned process, and often people are not properly taught how to manage anger when they are young. That paired with other strong emotions related to anger such as sadness, loneliness, or guilt, it’s not uncommon for people to struggle with anger problems at some point in their lives.

My wife has anger issues. What do I do?

If your wife has anger problems, Christian anger management counseling might be able to help. First understand that living in abusive relationships can pose a serious threat to your health, so if you are a victim of your spouse’s anger, you might consider support for yourself. If you wish your spouse to undergo Christian counseling for anger management, approach them with compassion and concern.

My husband has anger issues. What do I do?

If your husband’s anger problems result in physical violence, it’s best to get away from the situation. That being said, Christian anger management counseling is very effective for those who want to learn how to control anger. You can never force a person into counseling, but if your partner is willing, we encourage you to schedule a risk-free initial session as soon as possible.

Does anger counseling work?

Christian anger management counseling with Tacoma Christian Counseling offers those with anger issues reliable tools for recovery. Learning to control anger takes time, but with dedication and the right resources, it is possible.

Call today to learn more about Christian anger management counseling

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. – Proverbs 15:1

If you or a loved one suffers with anger management problems, the time to act is now. No one should have to suffer with a life controlled by anger. We urge you to call us today at (253) 777-1997 or contact us online to schedule your risk-free initial session.