Men’s Issues

From Unsteady to Unbreakable. A Man’s Transformative Journey in Christian Counseling.

Drew’s Story Part 1

Drew was a broken man. He had known it for a long time but now it was catching up with him. It looked like he had it all, but he watched his life unraveling. His wife was leaving him and he wasn’t able to pull himself together. Drew knew he had issues. He drank a bit too much, dabbled in pornography, and his life was littered with broken promises, but he didn’t think it was that bad, until now. Drew was frustrated, not knowing how to turn things around. The stress of it all caused him to act rashly and sometimes angrily towards those who he felt he had failed. Drew felt worthless, lost, and without hope.

Life can be hard. We all experience times of pain, doubt, and regret. Sometimes we become so stuck in things that are harmful that we fear we’ll never escape. Christian counseling for men is a tool for those who want more out of life. If you’re unhappy with where your life is going, or if you feel you don’t know where you are going, we are here to help you find your way.

So, What Is Christian Counseling For Men?

Simply stated, Christian counseling for men is a process for men of all ages who need help getting their life on track. Whether you struggle with relationship issues, anger, past trauma, addiction, or lack of focus and purpose for your life, we offer you Christ-centered guidance and support.

Regardless of the issue that brings you to us, at Tacoma Christian Counseling you can expect:

• Support with dignity – Sometimes it can be hard to ask for help. We admire your courage, and we are here to provide you with support in a non-judgmental space where you are free to explore your concerns and hopes safely.
• Tools for positive change – Our goal is to help you improve your life. We offer a variety of tools and methods, catered to your unique needs. We are dedicated to helping you succeed in all areas of your life.
• Experience you can trust – Tacoma Christian Counseling is among the most trusted and experienced Christian counseling groups in Washington. We’ve successfully helped men overcome, even in the darkest moments, and move towards a life of happiness and fulfillment.
• Faith-based solutions – Christian counseling for men offers everything secular counseling groups provide and much more. Through faith and guidance from Christ, we are able to find healing where other methods fail. Our hope is to help you grow — not just into a good man, but into a man of God.

Acknowledging that we need help can be difficult, but when you come to God with humility and a heart that seeks forgiveness and repentance, great things can happen for you. At Tacoma Christian Counseling, Christian counseling for men’s issues provides support for men who are ready to begin a journey of discovery, healing, and newness in Christ Jesus.

Christian Counseling For Men’s Issues: Common Focus Areas

Drew’s Story Part 2

Drew pleaded with his wife for another chance. He wanted to do better for his family, but he didn’t know how. Reluctant to try counseling before, Drew insisted that he would give it a try if only his wife would give him one final chance. She agreed, and Drew sought help through Christian counseling for men. Drew was unsure about counseling at first, but when he saw that his counselor was just another man who had fought his fair share of battles, Drew felt more comfortable and began a journey of discovery and healing.

If you’re like Drew, and you have reservations about Christian counseling, you’re not alone. Research shows that men are less likely than women to seek help for mental health issues, making up only about one-third of all people in therapy. Many of those wait until there is a crisis before finally getting help. There are many reasons for this. As men, we are sometimes taught from a young age to hide our emotions, or we might feel that getting help is weak and we should be able to solve our own problems. The dilemma is this: sometimes the very reason men fail to seek counseling is the same reason they need it. Christian counseling for men will help you talk about the hard things – and for a practical purpose. In learning to express yourself, you learn more about who you are, who you want to be, and how to communicate your needs in a productive way.

Christian counseling for men can help you sort through a variety of issues, and no matter is too insignificant. Some of the most common reasons men seek Christian counseling include:

Integrity and Servant Leadership

What does it mean to be a man of God? Sometimes men seek Christian counseling to help answer that question. Together we will explore what it means to be a man of honor, integrity, and righteousness. Then we’ll take it a step further and talk about a man’s role regarding leadership. Whether in the home, church, or place of work, leadership according to Christ requires a measure of servitude. A leader is the one who serves first, forgives first, loves first, and repents first. Christian counseling for men explores these ideas and more to help you discover Christ within yourself, so you may grow spiritually.

Sexual Addiction and Pornography Addiction

For many men, it’s natural to battle sexual temptations and desires. It doesn’t help that we live in a hyper-sexualized world with borderline pornographic imagery at every turn and temptation always at our fingertips. We understand the lure pornography has on people today, but it can lead to a variety of mental, emotional, and personal problems. Tacoma Christian Counseling provides sexual addiction counseling including pornography addiction counseling.

Anxiety and Depression

Do you struggle with persistent worry or fears? Do you often feel irritable, lack energy and focus, or often feel “down”? If you can relate to any of these statements, then you might suffer from anxiety or depression. Among some of the most common, yet most under-diagnosed issues for men, anxiety and depression can take a huge toll on many areas of your life. We can help you get to the bottom of these issues and find more meaning, happiness, and peace in Christ for your life.

Chemical Dependency

Addiction is a form of bondage that controls your mind and body, and it can make you feel like you’re in a dark place spiritually. Tacoma Christian Counseling provides effective tools for treating chemical dependency. Whether addicted to drugs or alcohol, we know how difficult it can be to break loose from the strong grasp of addiction. We are dedicated to helping you succeed using a tailored approach made strong by faith in Christ Jesus.

Anger

Many people, especially men, tend to use anger as their go-to emotion. When feeling sad, hopeless, frustrated, or unloved by self and others, sometimes it’s easier to react in anger rather than expressing our true emotions. Uncontrolled anger issues can cause problems with your work and relationships, and can also land you in legal trouble. If you struggle with anger management issues, Christian counseling can help you gain control.

Relationships and Fatherhood

“What women want” is one of the most searched terms on the Internet. If you are among the many men out there who can’t seem to understand women and struggle with relationship issues, you’re not alone. Things like relationships and adjusting to the changes of parenthood can be stressful, and at times we need a little help. Christian counseling for men will provide you with faith-based insights, tools, and support for forming fulfilling relationships and tackling the sometimes complicated issues of parenting. This can include relationship counseling, parenting skills counseling, and divorce counseling.

Crisis and Trauma Counseling

Everyone, regardless of age or gender, is vulnerable to trauma. Christian counseling for men offers support for those who suffer from issues related to past abuse, neglect, or traumatic experiences. If you’ve suffered from trauma, sexual abuse, loss or any other event that impedes your ability to live fully, we are here to offer the solutions and support you need.

Are you interested in career counseling? Many men seek counseling because they are either unsatisfied professionally or lack vision for their life. In any case, Christian counseling for men’s issues will help you find your passion and God-given purpose so you can provide for yourself and your loved ones and thrive while doing so.

Spiritual Development

As Christians, we sometimes feel that means we have it all together, but like everyone, we are subject to times of hardship, doubt, and fall into temptation. Christian counseling for men seeks to provide all men a place where they can explore issues of faith with like-minded people who understand the ups and downs of spiritual development.

Christian counseling for men’s issues offers a broad-spectrum of therapies. Depending on your needs, your counselor will create a customized approach that suits your unique situation. One thing every approach shares is support for those who wish to express and utilize their faith in the healing process.

Christ Jesus, Your Example, Guide, Strength, Redeemer, And Promise

Drew’s Story Part 3

Christian counseling opened Drew’s eyes. He needed to make big changes, and thanks to the guidance and tools given him, Drew knew he could succeed. Drew discovered a passion for serving God, healed past wounds that fueled his alcoholism, and learned how to be the husband and father God created him to be. For the first time in his life, Drew felt like a man. He was confident yet humble, firm yet loving, and most of all unbreakable against a world that once threatened to destroy him.

Christian counseling for men’s issues is about more than solving problems in your life. Any reputable counseling group offers this. Christian counseling is different because it not only provides evidence-based treatment, but provides guidance for those who want spiritual healing so they may grow into the likeness of Christ as promised. In a world that is against things of God, sometimes it helps to have support from others who share our values and have experience in overcoming struggles through faith in Christ Jesus. That’s what we are about at Tacoma Christian Counseling – helping people like you heal, grow, and thrive emotionally, physically, and spiritually by building a stronger relationship of faith and trust in Christ.

Christ Jesus, Our Example

What do you think of when trying to describe Jesus? How much of this do you see in yourself, and in what ways do you come short? Christian counseling for men aims to help husbands, fathers, young men, and old men, grow into men of God. Often times that means facing issues, temptations, and pains you carry. Through Christ, we are healed and shown what is expected of us.

Christ Jesus Is:

• Righteousness
• Forgiveness
• Mercy
• Strength for the weak
• Healer and Redeemer
• Truth and life
• The son of God, our example and our way to eternity

Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”- John 14:6

Christ Jesus, Our Guide

Christ does more than show us what it means to be men of God, he shows us the way to become such. This rather simple truth is sometimes overlooked, but very important for salvation. Through his example, we are shown what we ought to do and what to avoid. We are also told that sin leads to death, and though Christ we are delivered. What man can become righteous? None. At least not on his own. That is where faith in Christ comes in – faith in his promise for redemption and freedom from sin so that we may inherit life eternal. Through this faith, we will begin to see Christ formed in us and the darkness driven away.

When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” – John 8:12

Christ Jesus, Our Strength

Living in this world can be difficult, to say the least. Living righteously even more so. Through Christ we are given strength in our times of weakness, and brought out of the darkness for the glory of God. Even difficult times work towards goodness for children of God, but when we are in the midst of adversity, it can be difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel. In turning to Christ, you find strength to stand against temptation, resilience in times of adversity, and passion for helping the weak or spiritually young.

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. – 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 9

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. – Romans 8:28

Christ Jesus, Our Redeemer

Most importantly, Jesus came to deliver us from our sins. Sin is bondage, often ruling our life. Whether it is addiction, lust, greed, or selfishness, sin destroys our lives and the lives of those we love. It ties us down to this world. Through faith and allowing Jesus to work in our lives showing us the weight of the sin we can turn away from sin, we are shown mercy and remission from sin. If we are willing and confess our sin, He is faithful to forgive us our sin and He will cleanse us of all unrighteousness. That is the ultimate freedom, and a precious promise of God through our savior from sin: Jesus. We will see our hearts transformed over time as his laws are written in us and we grow in spirit. Meanwhile, Christ is patient, and forgiving of our transgressions until he shows us mercy and deliverance.

Jesus replied, “Very truly I tell you, everyone who sins is a slave to sin. Now a slave has no permanent place in the family, but a son belongs to it forever. So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed. – John 34-36

They show that the requirements of the law are written on their hearts, their consciences also bearing witness, and their thoughts sometimes accusing them and at other times even defending them. – Romans 2:15

Christ Jesus, Our Promise

Though a promise of freedom from sin is of itself wonderful, as Christians we are given even more – promise of life eternal. Through faith in Christ for remission of our sins and with the gift of the Holy Spirit, we are transformed into the image of God on this earth so that we might also be partakers of the divine nature and eternal life, thereby escaping the eternal punishment of the second death.

Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires. – 2 Peter 1:4

Then they will go away to eternal punishment, but the righteous to eternal life.” – Matthew 24:26

At Tacoma Christian Counseling, we know the pressures you sometimes feel as a Christian. We also understand the many struggles we sometimes face on this earth. The good news is we are shown the way of healing and of life through Christ Jesus. As Christian counselors, we hope to share our passion, experience, and knowledge with those who struggle with darkness in their lives. We aren’t here to judge you, or make you feel like a lesser person. We are here to encourage and inspire you, while providing hope and tools for living a happy, fulfilling, Christ-filled life.

Should I see a male Christian counselor?

Whether you choose a male or female counselor depends on your own comfort. While there are some issues that are more easily discussed and empathized with by a male counselor, Tacoma Christian Counseling includes both men and women who provide Christian counseling for men’s issues. We welcome you to browse our counselor profiles to find someone you feel is right for you.

How long does Christian counseling last?

The length of Christian counseling varies from person to person and issue to issue. Depending on your struggles, dedication to treatment, and other factors, your counselor will help you determine what kind of counseling you need and how long you might need it.

Do you offer Christian counseling groups for men?

Tacoma Christian Counseling offers a variety of counseling groups. This changes from time to time depending on counselor availability and requests from our clients. Feel free to take a look at our group counseling page for current groups offered, and if you have interest in having a group formed, let us know. We are always open to suggestions for helping our clients live well.

Do you offer Christian counseling for male teens?

Yes. We provide Christian counseling services for people of all ages and backgrounds. We understand the struggles teens face, so if you’re interested in Christian counseling for teens, we are here to help.

Contact us today to learn more about Christian counseling for men

If you’re ready to begin a journey of healing, enlightenment, and redemption, Christian counseling for men is here to show you the way. Simply give us a call at (253) 777-1997. or contact us online to schedule your risk-free initial session.