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6 Types and Examples of Emotional Abuse

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6 Types and Examples of Emotional Abuse

Benita Weems

Individual CounselingRelationship IssuesTrauma

It can be helpful to identify emotional abuse by looking at examples. In this article, we’ll define emotional abuse, give examples of emotional abuse, and show you how to get help if you or a loved one is being abused in this way.

What is emotional abuse?

6 Types and Examples of Emotional Abuse 2Emotional abuse is a pattern of behavior that involves the use of manipulation, coercion, and/or control to undermine another person’s sense of self-worth, emotional well-being, and overall mental health. It can take many forms, including those described below.

Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse, and it can have serious long-term effects on the victim’s mental health and overall well-being. If you think you may be experiencing emotional abuse, it’s important to seek help and support from a trusted friend, family member, or professional such as a Christian counselor.

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Examples of emotional abuse.

Here are several examples of emotional abuse. If you are experiencing any of these behaviors, it is essential to seek help and support from a qualified Christian counselor.

Verbal abuse.

Verbal abuse is a type of emotional abuse that involves using words to hurt, demean, or control another person. Here are a few examples of verbal abuse:

Shouting or yelling. This can include raising the volume of your voice in an aggressive or threatening manner.

Name-calling. This involves using derogatory or belittling language to describe someone.

Blaming. Placing the responsibility for your negative feelings or behaviors on someone else.

Criticism. Expressing negative judgments or evaluations of someone’s behavior or character.

Threatening language. This can include threatening physical harm, or threatening to take away something important to the victim, such as custody of children or access to financial resources.

If you are experiencing verbal abuse, it is important to seek help and support. Verbal abuse can have serious long-term effects on your mental health and overall well-being.

Manipulation.

6 Types and Examples of Emotional Abuse 3Manipulation is a type of emotional abuse that involves using subtle or covert tactics to control another person’s thoughts, feelings, or actions. Here are a few examples of manipulation:

Gaslighting. This involves manipulating someone into doubting their perceptions and memories. It can involve denying that certain events took place, or suggesting that the victim is “crazy” or “overreacting.”

Passive-aggressive behavior. Communicating indirectly through behaviors rather than directly addressing the issue. An example might be giving the “silent treatment” instead of openly expressing anger or frustration.

Guilt tripping. This involves manipulating someone into doing something by making them feel guilty for not doing it.

Playing the victim. Manipulating someone by portraying oneself as the victim in a situation, even when that is not the case.

Coercing. Using pressure or intimidation to get someone to do something that they might not otherwise do.

Baiting. This involves trying to provoke someone into reacting emotionally so that you can then use their emotional response against them.

If you feel like you are being manipulated, it’s important to set boundaries and communicate your needs and feelings clearly. A counselor can help you learn how to do this.

Isolation.

Isolation is a type of emotional abuse that involves limiting the victim’s social interactions or access to resources. Here are a few examples of how someone might be isolated in an abusive situation:

Controlling who the victim talks to. The abuser might try to limit the victim’s contact with friends, family, or other supportive people.

Monitoring the victim’s phone or online activity. The abuser might try to control who the victim talks to or what they do online.

Restricting the victim’s access to transportation. The abuser might take away the victim’s car keys, or make it difficult for them to use other forms of transportation.

Isolating the victim from their support system. The abuser might try to alienate the victim from their friends and family or discourage them from seeking help or support.

6 Types and Examples of Emotional AbuseControl over the victim’s schedule. The abuser might try to control where the victim goes and what they do, making it difficult for them to participate in activities outside of the relationship.

If you feel like you are being isolated in an abusive situation, it’s important to try to reach out for support. Isolation can be especially damaging to one’s mental health, and it’s important to have a support system in place.

 

Emotional neglect.

Emotional neglect is a type of emotional abuse that involves ignoring the emotional needs of the victim or failing to provide support and validation. Here are a few examples of emotional neglect:

Ignoring the victim’s emotions. The abuser might act as if the victim’s feelings are not valid, or dismiss their emotional needs as unimportant.

Failing to provide emotional support. The abuser might not be available to provide comfort or support when the victim is going through a difficult time.

Refusing to engage in emotional communication. The abuser might avoid discussing the victim’s feelings or problems, or refuse to listen when the victim tries to talk about their emotions.

Invalidating the victim’s emotions. The abuser might try to convince the victim that their feelings are wrong or irrational.

Failing to acknowledge the victim’s accomplishments or positive qualities. The abuser might not praise or validate the victim’s successes or positive qualities.

If you feel like you are experiencing emotional neglect, it’s important to try to communicate your needs and feelings to your abuser. If this is not possible, or if you do not feel safe doing so, it can be helpful to seek support from a Christian counselor.

Financial abuse.

Financial abuse is a type of emotional abuse that involves controlling the victim’s access to financial resources or using their financial resources without their consent. Here are a few examples of financial abuse:

Controlling the victim’s access to money. The abuser might try to limit the victim’s access to cash, bank accounts, credit cards, or other financial resources.

Making financial decisions without the victim’s consent. The abuser might make significant financial decisions, such as buying a house or car, without consulting the victim.

6 Types and Examples of Emotional Abuse 1Withholding money. The abuser might refuse to give the victim enough money for basic needs, such as food, clothing, or medical expenses.

Running up debt. The abuser might rack up credit card debt or loans without the victim’s knowledge or consent.

Misusing joint accounts. The abuser might use joint accounts or credit cards without the victim’s knowledge or permission.

Sabotaging the victim’s financial stability. The abuser might try to ruin the victim’s credit, or interfere with their ability to work or earn an income.

If you feel like you are experiencing financial abuse, it’s important to try to establish some financial independence and to seek help and support. It can be helpful to speak with a financial planner or to seek the assistance of a trusted friend, family member, or professional.

Threats.

This can include threatening physical harm or threatening to take away something important to the victim, such as custody of children or access to financial resources.

Christian counseling.

If you are a Christian and are seeking counseling for emotional abuse, it can be helpful to find a therapist who is familiar with Christian teachings and beliefs. Christian counseling can provide a supportive and nonjudgmental space to process and heal from the effects of emotional abuse. A Christian counselor can help you to understand and work through your feelings in the context of your faith and can provide guidance and support as you navigate the healing process.

There are a few different ways you can find a Christian counselor for emotional abuse:

Ask your church. Many churches have a list of recommended therapists or counseling resources. You can ask your pastor or another trusted church leader for recommendations.

Search online directories. There are many online directories like this one that can help you find a Christian counselor in your area.

Check your insurance. Your insurance company may have a list of in-network therapists who specialize in Christian counseling.

It’s important to find a therapist with whom you feel comfortable and safe. Don’t be afraid to ask potential therapists about their approach to counseling, their experience working with clients who have experienced emotional abuse, and how they integrate faith into their practice. Contact us today to learn how a Christian counselor can help you.

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