Are you facing insecurity as a woman of faith? Women’s insecurities can paralyze them and keep them from living the full and abundant lives God has designed. Here is a list of common women’s insecurities that may be affecting you, and tips on how to handle them.
Common Women’s Insecurities
Women can face several different insecurities at the same time, which can take a toll on their mental, emotional, physical, relational, and spiritual health. See if any of these insecurities are playing a role in your life now.
In an image-focused culture, it’s very common for body insecurities to take a toll on women of all sizes, shapes, and ages. You may think you are too thin or too heavy, though others say the opposite. Your body insecurities may keep you from engaging in activities you would enjoy because you fear criticism or rejection.
Do you feel anxious when you are in social situations? Perhaps you feel like others will judge you or make fun of you based on past experiences of shame. Maybe you are simply an introvert who is uncomfortable interacting in loud, busy social settings. Whatever the reason you experience them, social insecurities can hold you back from meeting lovely people who will be a blessing to you.
Many women experience insecurities related to work. You may have fears about losing your job or being overlooked for a promotion. Your fears at work may stem from disagreements with your boss or coworkers, and you may wonder if you could be sabotaged by them. Work insecurities can affect your morale, goal setting, attitudes, and job satisfaction. Even if you don’t work, you could have insecurities related to your self-worth.
If you are married or in a dating relationship, you may experience insecurity related to the relationship. You may worry that your partner will become more interested in someone else because you don’t feel confident in yourself. As a married woman, you may feel inadequate for your husband, and this can have negative effects on your sex life.
Another area of relationship insecurities is a mother’s relationship with her children. You may feel like you are not a good enough mom to your kids, and you may be worried about the path they will take. These insecurities can negatively impact how your children see you and interact with you.
Are you confident in your relationship with God? Many women struggle with knowing they are fully loved and accepted by God. Their spiritual insecurities are often linked to unprocessed trauma in their childhoods or in past choices they have made. Sadly, these insecurities create unnecessary barriers between women and God, who wants nothing more than to help them handle their insecurities.
Handling Women’s Insecurities
There are several steps you can take to handle the insecurities you face as a woman. These tips will help you find perspective, healing, and peace.
Cultivate Your Relationship with God
Insecurities operate in the hidden places of the heart. But since God created you, he knows you perfectly. He can draw your insecurities out into the light, where you can receive healing.
Cultivating your relationship with God means drawing closer to him every day. You can do this in just thirty minutes of daily Bible study, prayer, and deep meditation on God’s Word. Keeping a prayer journal will help you track your progress as you overcome insecurities. It will show you how God is working in your life and give you confidence that he will help you in the future.
Tame Your Inner Critic
For one hour, record every self-critical comment you have in a notebook. You will likely be surprised by how many times you say something mean to yourself, something you would never say to a friend or loved one.
Then, make a list of all the good things about you. When you are tempted to criticize yourself, refer to that list and speak one of those truths over yourself. You’ll have even greater power if you choose to speak God’s truth over yourself, such as Psalm 139:14, “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” This exercise will help you counter the shame that accompanies your insecurity.
Look at Your Influences
You can make two more lists that will help you defuse insecurities. On one list, write out the people who you know appreciate you. Why do you matter to them? List out the characteristics they have affirmed in you. The second list is the people who stole your sense of self-worth. What lies did they tell you? Writing this out will show you the kind of influences to avoid in the future.
You have a choice of what kind of people serve as influences in your life. You can choose people who will speak life rather than death to you. The people who will speak life to you are the people who want to influence you in the future. A Christian counselor can help you in this process of making better relationship choices.
Remember Your God-Given Agency
To have agency means to have the power to make a choice. God created mankind with the ability to make choices. You can choose to remain stuck in insecurities, or you can use it to heal and grow. This is a power you may not have acknowledged before, but it has been, is now, and will always be yours to use.
Knowing that you have agency in your choices and relationships can change everything. It can help you put the past behind you and move forward in a healthier direction. A compassionate counselor can advise you on where you can exercise greater agency in your life to remove insecurities.
Reach Out to Others
You cannot overcome your insecurities on your own. God designed you to live and grow in a community, and he wants to heal you in relationships with others. Reaching out to others will take courage, but it will be a key to your healing experience.
A good place to reach out is in your local church. If you aren’t connected with a local church, start looking for ones that have small group ministries. In a small group, you will connect with people on a deeper level than you will if you only attend church services. Small groups exist to support and encourage one another in faith. Your connection with a small group could be a big part of overcoming your insecurities.
Choose a New Path
The experiences that drive your insecurities don’t have to define you any longer. You can be set free from the past by drawing close to God and meeting with a Christian counselor. The past may have held you back before, but you can break its power with biblical principles.
If you don’t take a hard look at your past, you might miss lessons that will be valuable for you today. Looking at your past with a caring counselor will help you examine parts and pieces so you can throw away the bad and keep the good. That will help you make wiser choices moving forward, so you don’t fall into the same traps of insecurity again. You can set goals and dreams for a path that aligns with God’s will for you.
Christian Counseling for Women
Women’s insecurities are difficult to overcome on your own. You may need outside help to truly get past them and embrace a new life that is more meaningful and rewarding. A compassionate Christian counselor is ready to help you overcome your insecurity and step into a life of abundant faith and peace. Contact us today to learn more about how we can help you overcome your insecurities.
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